The Benefits of Having Children

Yesterday’s post sparked a comment re: why not write a blog post about the benefits of having children? I wrote yesterday’s blog to show-case some of the  perceived challenges of being in ministry and raising a family. Those in the church may already know this, while others may not have given it much thought. While there may be some unique challenges in ministry, people were right in stating that very few have an “ideal” set-up when raising their family. Here’s a look at the benefits of having children no matter the profession, except maybe being a hit man.

Before I go there, I must confess that I feel a little awkward doing this. How can a person who has never had children write about their benefits? How can I even have a CLUE as to what it’s really like? Well, here goes, I’m going to give it a shot based on what I have heard from parents and what I have read.  Here’s what I’ve gleaned from others:

1. Children are an experience of a lifetime. If you can’t really know what it’s like until you have experienced it, then nothing else really compares.

2. Children can help a person improve for the better. Some people quit smoking as a result of having a child. Others throw out the junk food and try to eat a healthier diet. This can come from a place of realization of “money see, monkey do”. That children are watching to see if what mom and dad say matches up to what they actually do themselves. This reality causes some parents to want to be the best version of themselves.

3. Children bring family together. Suddenly the relatives that rarely pop in want to see you as much as possible.

4. Children open the doors to a community of people who totally get you (other parents). It’s an unofficial club with many benefits. Not only are they understanding when your child has a meltdown, they also want to get together for a play-date and they just met you!

5. Children let you relive some of your youth. You get to experience many 1st’s all over again!. You may remember the first movie you saw in a theater, first amusement park, first home-run, first whatever… you get to witness some pretty cool 1st’s through your child.

The list can go on and on. I’ve been told that many of the benefits are intangible. That you just have to experience it to know how great the benefits truly are. And that while it’s the hardest job you will ever do, it is also the very best.

This smile makes me smile!
This smile makes me smile!

Parents:  add to the list by leaving a comment below 🙂

9 thoughts on “The Benefits of Having Children”

  1. The best benefit to having children is the increase of LOVE. Some people think that you have to spread your love out as if it were something that is measurable like time or something. However when children come into the family there is just more LOVE in the home and this is the reason why I just want more.

  2. If I didn’t have children, I would never know what a great father my husband is! Also, having children made us become responsible and less self-centered adults.

  3. The first time I held my baby boy, I was overwhelmed with love. I remember thinking, “the way I feel now about you is only a sliver compared to the Father’s love for me.” It blew my mind!

  4. Truly nothing like it. You “think” you experience love with your spouse and your family, but when you have a child (birthed or chosen) you realize that you love so differently! You seem to love with your entire soul. There are times mind you…… But then you have grandchildren That’s when you nearly explode.

  5. In response To your post about raising kids in the ministry, It is definitely is not easy, especially when you have an overly extroverted (life is a party and there is no time to be quiet), emotional, and strong-willed child that seems to draw attention to everything they are doing. But our first ministry is to our family, not the church. So you have to have a thick skin and parent your child the way your child needs you to parent them, and not care what people in your church might be thinking. My husband was a PK and told God growing up that he would never be a pastor because he didn’t want to do that to his kids. But God had other plans and we try to make boundaries for our family and do things a little differently than he experienced as a kid. At the end of the day, my greatest desire in life is for my kids to know Jesus. With all the challenges of raising kids, it is still the greatest blessing of my life! Your most recent blog touched on some of the reasons.

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