Here are some thoughts that I have had since writing last week’s blog post:
1. I was never the type of girl who dreamed up and planned details of my future wedding. That just wasn’t me. I thought about finding the man of my dreams and being married but that’s about where the dreaming ended. I did not know what colour my bridesmaids would wear until I was making the decision while engaged. It really shouldn’t come as any big surprise that I haven’t always dreamed of having children.
2. While there seems to be a lot of women who always knew they wanted to be a mother, there are others who thought they never wanted children and changed their minds. There are some who never gave whether or not to have children much thought until at some point in their lives, they did. A person who hasn’t always known is not any less worthy of being a mother or father than those who always knew.
3. Just because a person always wanted to be something doesn’t mean that ends up being their reality. Sadly, there are lots of women who always knew that they wanted to be a mother who never ended up being one. Life sometimes gets in the way of our dreams. Knowing that one wants to be a parent isn’t a guarantee that it will happen, unfortunately.
Ultimately, I want to keep in mind one of my favourite quotes: “Comparison is the thief of joy” by Theodore Roosevelt. Comparing oneself to mothers who have always known that they wanted to be one can make a person feel inferior. I plan to remember point #2 and keep in mind that comparison is the thief of joy!