20 weeks today. Happy to be half way. We won’t have our anatomy scan until another couple of weeks. That’s the one where we *could* find out gender.
Here’s the back story… I lean towards waiting until delivery to find out. Derek would choose to find out now. Below I’ll list out some of the positive to each of our options. I would love to hear what you decided to do + why and if you were happy with that choice.
Waiting until birth to find out:
1. While a bit romanticized, I’d love for Derek (instead of an ultrasound tech) to tell me, “it’s a boy” or “it’s a girl”.
2. I’ve already spent half of this pregnancy not knowing, what’s 20 more weeks?
3. Once family/friends know the gender, it’s very likely that you’ll get everything in pink or blue at your shower. And your more likely to get tons of cute clothing (that they often outgrown before they can wear them all) rather than some practical items off your baby registry. Since we’d like to have another child and you don’t get a shower for your 2nd, I’d rather have gender neutral items that could be used again if we have a child of opposite gender. Plus, sometimes a baby shower for a girl is just way too much pink and frills (even for me who likes pink!).
4. I think there’s an added level of excitement when friends and family have to wait until the birth to find out (even though they wish you’d find out early!).
Finding out early:
1. You get to mentally prepare for life with a son or daughter.
2. If you happen to have a rough/complicated delivery, the “it’s a boy” or “it’s a girl” may not be as romantic as imagined. In some of these cases, one may wish they found out earlier.
3. You can decorate your nursery for a boy or a girl.
4. Makes naming the child a bit easier as you only focus on boy or girl names. You can start calling your child by name (if you wish) before delivery. This can make it feel more real for some people.
Finding out and not telling anyone:
This seems to be the compromise between the two. This way, #3 and #4 can still be accomplished in “Waiting until birth to find out” and obviously, all of “Finding out early” is as well. The biggest problem with this is how people will react. Will they think its snobbish to know and not tell anyone? Will some people pressure us to tell them ’cause they just have to know? Will one of us slip up and then the news will be unofficially out?
I would LOVE to hear what you decided to do (or plan to do) and why. TGIF 🙂