Our baby girl is 1 month old. It’s crazy how time is flying! We are so very, very tired but falling more and more in-love with her every day. Here’s some thoughts and tips on the first month post-partum:
– Getting up multiple times a night for weeks on end is torture. But worth it 🙂 Keep the fact that you and your partner are sleep deprived in-mind and be gracious to one another.
– You are sore. So sore after giving birth. You wonder if you’ll ever feel “normal” again. But the good news is that it’s gotten better. The first week was the worst.
– I’m sorry to say it, but there’s so much blood. Prepare to wear pads for at least 3 weeks straight.
– You NEED someone there 24/7 that first week post-birth. Whether that’s your significant other, mother, etc. You are recovering from birth AND you have a newborn to care for. Don’t even try it alone; you must accept help for the first week but longer is better.
– Limit visitors as much as possible for the first two weeks. It’s funny that people will tell you to sleep when the baby sleeps but if you have non-stop visitors you aren’t able to do this!
– Really do try and sleep when the baby sleeps. Taking even a 20 minute nap can help boost your mood in those early days.
– Take lots of photos. Even in one month’s time they begin to change so much.
– It’s been amazing that some of the text book suggestions have worked such as saying “shh” and swaying baby back and forth.
– Breastfeeding can be super hard. Prepare ahead of time as much as you can. See a lactation consultant post-birth if needed.
– Let your partner have a role. And do things together (such as diaper changes during the 1st week). This will help with bonding.
– On a bad day, do some skin-to-skin or other cuddling with your baby. Or ask your partner to hold the baby while you take a quick break.
– Babies are super vulnerable in the first 6 weeks of life. Don’t feel bad about keeping them away from people who are sick or large crowds.
Lastly, try not to be too sad that your baby is growing so fast….that they won’t curl up on your chest like this forever. A lot of parents say that the best it still yet to come. One phase may be over but a new one is beginning. With this in-mind, soak up each stage the best that you can.