Not having a birthday party for your 1 year old

Our baby is only 3.5 months old and I’m already thinking about her 1st birthday. Mainly, I’m thinking about not having one (*gasp!*). Like a toddler, I ask WHY? a lot and I’m not satisfied with a “its just what you do” reply. When it comes to birthday parties for young children, I question who the party is really for. I’ve been at many a birthday party for a young child who looks like this when it’s time to blow out the candles:

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The child is overtired, overstimulated, and overwhelmed. Yet hours and hours of preparation have gone into throwing their birthday party. And a lot of money was spent as well. For whom? I honestly don’t think it’s for the child as they won’t have any memories of their 1st birthday. I think a 1st birthday party is really for the parents, grandparents, aunts/uncles, friends, etc.

I’m questioning if planning a big birthday bash is the best use of our time and money. Around her 1st birthday, I’ll be heading back to work. I think I’d rather savour those last days stress-free than prepping for a birthday party. The idea of just us three celebrating at home appeals to me. I don’t think she’ll be disappointed in any way for not throwing her a big 1st birthday party. But will family and friends?

We’ll revisit this as the time gets closer to her 1st birthday. Maybe I’ll change my mind. But maybe, just maybe, we won’t have a traditional 1st birthday party for our wonderful girl. Maybe we’ll celebrate like we did on the day she was born – just mommy, daddy and baby girl. Three is holy number after all 🙂

4 thoughts on “Not having a birthday party for your 1 year old”

  1. You do what you feel is right:). If others have a problem, they will eventually get over it. Or perhaps you can tell them to plan one:) Hehe

  2. I agree with Elisha. I personally love party planning and I am always looking for an excuse to throw a party. We knew our daughter’s first and second birthday parties were more for us than for her. I know lots of families that don’t have big parties to celebrate. You need to do what is right for your family.

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