5 Reasons Why I Need Non-Mom Friends

We all know that Moms need other Moms to survive the child-rearing years. But there’s a friend that every mom needs: a Non-Mom friend. Here are 5 reasons why:


  1. Your chance of having a meaningful coffee date is 100% greater when one of you is child free

If you could be a fly on the wall of a mommy get-together you would hear a lot of this: “Sorry, what were you saying again?” Seconds after this common question is asked, the mom is off running after a toddler who is determined to find the most dangerous or breakable things. And if they can’t find something dangerous, it’s time for an epic meltdown. Believe me, it’s so much easier to have a decent conversation if at least one of you isn’t also worried about your child dying as you talk.

2. Friends without kids can offer great support and even advice!

I really don’t like the notion that only those who are Moms can understand or contribute to a discussion about children. I think Non-Moms can sympathize and offer tips more than we give them credit.

3. They remind you that you are more than just a Mom.

Often, your Non-Mom friends were your friends before you had children. There may be interests that you shared. If you stop hanging out with them, you lose that part of your life. Odds are that eventually, your children will move away from home. If you lose your Non-Mom friends during this season in life, you may find yourself completely lost when the empty nest years begin. You may forget who you were before kids, therefore forgetting the non-children aspects of your life.

4. The Golden Rule

I remember what it felt like to be on the outside. The outside of the mommy club. Friends all of a sudden disappeared when they had a child. I understood that their life had changed, that they were busy but….they often were busy hanging out with other moms! People they barely knew seemed to take priority over little old me with no children. Treating others how we want to be treated is another reason to keep your Non-Mom friends.

5. It’s boring to have just one type of friend.

Why have only vanilla ice cream when there’s so many flavours out there?! I think you’ll find life more fulfilling when your friends are varied. And you may find that you grow more as a result. .

Are you a Mom that’s been intentional about keeping your Non-Mom friends? What’s helped to foster those friendships? Or if you’ve been a Mom for a while, do you wish that you had more Non-Mom friends? Why or why not? And for those reading who fall into the camp of being a Non-Mom, I’d love to hear your thoughts as well. Looking forward to your comments!

3 thoughts on “5 Reasons Why I Need Non-Mom Friends”

  1. the absolute worst is when you turn to mom friends for advice about something and they come back with something like, “you know, having kids has really put everything into perspective. the things I used to think are important just really aren’t anymore!” how condescending.

    1. that’s awful! you should come back with, “ya, I’ve noticed that since you became a parent things like being a good listener + advice giver aren’t important to you anymore” 😉

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