Since October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, I thought it appropriate to write a blog post on early miscarriage. “At least you weren’t far along” and “it’s likely that there was a problem with chromosomes” are examples of unhelpful statements made to those who receive a positive pregnancy test and lose the baby days or weeks later. If you believe that life begins at conception, losing a baby at any time is devastating.
In March of 2014, I received our first positive pregnancy test. Our joy was short-lived as a couple days later, I began to spot. The ER doctor gave me a 50/50 chance. Unfortunately, after days of spotting, I had a miscarriage. Our miscarriage happened at 5 weeks. I spent my 30th birthday miscarrying our first child.
Early miscarriage is no big deal, right? Wrong. At least for me, it changed me. I will always remember December 5, 2014 as our first little ones due date. And having our first pregnancy result in miscarriage caused me to have a fear and anxiety ridden second pregnancy. With all that said, I think I’ll end with this quote by Winnie the Pooh. To our first little one, you are forever loved!