child spacing for 2nd child

The other day at work, I bought hard-boiled eggs from the cafeteria as per usual. This time, the eggs didn’t taste right so after a couple bites, I couldn’t eat anymore. A co-worker asked me about the eggs and then proclaimed, “maybe your pregnant!” I laughed and assured her that I’m not.

And so it begins. I have a 1 year old and I’m back to work after a year long maternity leave. Both of these = people wondering and asking if I’m pregnant with child #2.

While we think that we’d like a 2nd child (maybe?), I don’t feel ready for another pregnancy at this time. Is it even possible to feel ready for another pregnancy while you have a young child to take care of? And to feel ready for another round of newborn sleep deprivation?

I’ve done a little google searching on the topic of child spacing. Seems that many try to space their children close together in the hope that their children will be lifelong friends (while close spacing is no guarantee of this). There are others who intentionally wait until their child is older (3 or more years) so that they can have more 1:1 time with each child. In the different cases, I’ve noticed the following:

  1. almost everyone is happy with their child spacing (very few say they’d do things differently).
  2. there’s pros and cons to every age gap between siblings

I must acknowledge that we don’t always have a choice in child spacing. With that said, what are your thoughts re: ideal child spacing? For those with two or more children, what are the pros and cons of the age gap between your kids? Would you do things differently if there was a next time?

And if there’s any, “one and done” families reading this, please comment. What do you like about it? I’m loving our family of 3. I think it has many positives.

3 thoughts on “child spacing for 2nd child”

  1. I am waiting until my little boy is 18 months old before trying again. So if it happened straight away there would be just over a 2 year gap. My reasoning is that I had an emergency cesarean and was told to wait at least 18 months. I want my kids to be quite close together. I come from a family where my 2 big brothers are very close together and then there’s a huge gap of 10 years and then it’s me. My little brother is 7 years younger and I kind of felt like an only child even though I have 3 brothers. The gaps were just so big!

  2. I have 4 years apart and I love it since while one was at school full time the other was home alone with parent… also allows more time to be with the 4 year old on their first year of school you are on mat leave

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