For as long as I can remember, I have lived my life with an awareness that no one is guaranteed to live a certain # of days here on earth. I have never been one to assume that I will live to a ripe old age. Statistically, there may be evidence for me to assume I’ll see retirement. But can anyone guarantee that I’ll live to 80? No. As a result, I have often lived life like a woman on a mission.
I have a bucket list. A “bucket list” is a saying for the things you’d like to experience before you die. Up until now, my bucket list has mostly been in my head. But I’ve been working on ticking off items whenever I can.
I have conflicting feelings with the whole concept of a bucket list. Ultimately, it’s people rather than places and accomplishments that matter most in my life. Often, a bucket list is focused around self. I believe that the best way to live a fulfilling life is to be more others-focused than self-focused. So while this list seems so me, me, me, I firmly believe that I have been blessed to be a blessing.
The following is my bucket list:
Get certified as a lifeguard (this was a lesson I gave to myself on not giving up…when I returned to swimming lessons I was a lot older than those in my classes!).
Attend Roberts Wesleyan College (this was a dream of mine in high school. For some reason, I felt God leading me there…).
Get married (We met as a result of me going to Roberts Wesleyan College, even thought we never over-lapped while I was attending).
RD @ Roberts (I loved being a RA so much that I put on my bucket list being a RD).
Masters in Social Work (This became possible as a result of being a RD).
Work as a social worker in mental health (Due to moving to Canada for Derek’s job, I was able to find a great job in mental health).
Pay off all student loan and consumer debt (including car payments) (Money was tight those first years of marriage while Derek was in seminary. As a couple, we worked hard and sacrificed for the ultimate goal of financial freedom. It took years but we are now debt free except for the mortgage. It’s the best gift we could have given each other and our marriage. It’s also the reason we were able to see Australia).
Keith Urban in concert (he’s my favourite country artist. Derek agreed to come and as a result, he was converted into a Keith fan).
Travel Australia (Ever since I did a presentation on Australia in elementary school, my ultimate dream was to see Australia!).
See California (esp. bike the golden gate bridge) (This didn’t disappointment. One of our most favourite days ever was the day we biked in San Fransisco).
Loose weight (this wasn’t always on my bucket list but joined the list after weight gain. We’ll see if I can keep it off!).
Read often (started a book club to help this end).
See Nashville and Charleston
See professional figure skating in-person
Items left on my list:
See England (and maybe Wales and Scotland too).
Go on a cruise where we’d see Greece.
See Western US and Western Canada (drive out through the US and back through Canada).
Visit the Grand Canyon.
Go white water rafting!
Volunteer at local Children’s Aid Society.
Combat mental health stigma.
Help break the cycle of poverty for at least one person.
The last three are a little more complex. What exactly will these look like? I don’t know. But I can keep you posted.
Do you have a bucket list? Why or why not? If so, has your bucket list evolved over time? Are you actively plugging away at yours?