Bless your church: be an encourager

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Facebook reminded me that on this day in 2014, my status update said the following: “I believe this is universal: people are more likely to take the time to make a complaint than to go out of their way to express appreciation. Let’s change that.” The post received quite a few likes and comments in agreement. A couple of people stated that they were going to try to be better at expressing appreciation and complaining less.

The church is one place where criticism can be dished out as easily as mints and appreciation expressed sparingly. If you don’t believe me, have a heart-to-heart with any pastor or ministry leader. Whether the church is the biggest one in town or the smallest one, they all can relate in regards to criticism. Put a group of pastors together and you’ll find that they have heard it all.  And even though most of the criticisms are so very trivial (in light of eternity), they can wear church leadership down.

This is where you come in. There is hope! There is something that you can do to help offset the criticism that pastors and ministry leaders regularly face.  You can go out of your way to express appreciation. Don’t be a bystander (assuming someone else is doing the encouraging) but instead, take every opportunity to compliment, express appreciation, and to remind your pastor/leadership that you’re with them. I’m not saying that you’ll never disagree. Just make sure that your lips aren’t found to have more criticism on them than encouragement.

I don’t think that most congregation members in a church are critical and bitter. Rather, I believe (and some brief research has shown) that the opposite is true. It’s often 90% that are positive and 10% that are negative in a church. The problem is that it’s the 10% that are the most vocal. The 10% will talk (aka gossip) to anyone who will listen. And they are loud. It’s time for the 90% to rise up. To not assume that your pastor or leadership “just knows” how you feel. The 90% must balance out the 10% by taking every opportunity to express appreciation. To live out Hebrews 3:13 which calls Christians to “encourage one another daily.”

Lent is as good of time as any to start doing the things we know we ought to do. Why not take these 40 days to grow in the art of encouraging others. It may feel uncomfortable and unnatural at first, but it will get easier with time. Practice helps. What a difference we may see in our churches when the pastor(s) and leadership are encouraged regularly. What a difference the world may notice when the body of Christ is found to be generous with encouragement and careful with criticism. In this season of lent, let encouragement rise: in our own hearts, in our churches, and in our circles of influence. Each one – encourage one. Starting this day.

Forgiveness sets you free

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We all have wounds. Some hurts go deeper than others. If forgiveness is not present the wound will fester.

Forgiveness is rarely a one-time event. More often than not, it’s something we do over and over when we notice bitterness returning.

I am convinced that to grab hold of the best that this life has to offer, we need to let go. We must learn to be good forgivers.

The following quotes are helpful and healing reminders of the importance of practicing forgiveness.

To begin, here’s my favourite quote by Mother Teresa:

“People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; Forgive them anyway.”

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And lastly, the following is a quote from the Bible. Besides setting ourselves free from bitterness, Christians have another motivation for practicing forgiveness.

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Do you have a favourite quote on forgiveness? Add it here!

Forgiveness is a journey. We all need reminders to keep going down the path that leads to healing. If we keep the above truths before us, we can stop bitterness in its tracks. In doing so, we are able to witness the beauty that is forgiveness setting us FREE.

-R