Stop and reflect: October

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One day you’re waiting for the sky to fall. The next you’re dazzled by the beauty of it all.  – Bruce Cockburn

The start of October 2017 was full of tragedy. The world felt very dark. As the month went on, more cracks of light started shining through. Here’s some short reflections from the month:

Music: Switchfoot was my go-to (in particular, their Beautiful Letdown Album was my anthem for the month).

Reading: Rob Bell’s “What Is the Bible?”, Steven Curtis Chapman’s Autobiography & Brene Brown’s “The Gifts of Imperfection.”

Writing: examples of some of my thoughts shared on Instagram & Facebook that received meaningful feedback:

October 5th – on loneliness being the worst type of poverty
October 8th – a confession and encouragement
October 12th – on getting to know our literal neighbours
October 13th – on allowing people to change
October 19th – forgetting about numbers and helping one person at a time
October 29th – what the heart knows by heart, heals the heart

Travel: we took advantage of good weather days and did a couple day trips. The picture above was from visiting Brockville for the first time.

Theme: Today will soon be GONE (Switchfoot) & am I living scared or brave? The latter has been a new thought that arrived at the end of the month. Going to chew on that some more.

Tip: If you’re hungry for community, be willing to put yourself out there. Example: ask someone new to go out for coffee.  You just never know when it will be the start of something beautiful.

What was October like for you? Would love to hear your reflections. Ready or not, November is here. Together, we can face it and maybe even have some fun.

Building my village

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Now more than ever, I believe this statement to be true. Being a new mom is HARD. I’m 7 months into this parenting gig and I thought that I’d have my village by now. The reality that I’ve come to accept is this: it takes a lot of work to find your village that helps you raise your child. At least I’ve found this to be the case in small town/rural Canada. Our culture is bent against community. Canadians tend to live next to neighbours that they never talk to. There’s a saying that the invention of the garage door killed community. Also, these days, more and more mother’s work outside of the home. And while I’m 100% for women in the workforce, I’ve found it hard that the few mom friends that I do have in this area work during the day. I find that I struggle with motherhood the most when others are at work and I’m home alone with baby. Lastly, we also don’t have grandparents in this area. Part of the modern day challenge re: “the village” is that families rarely live in the same community anymore.

I’ve come to the realization that to find my village, I’ll have to go against culture. I’m going to have to put myself out there. And hardest of all, I must reach out to others and let them know that I could use the support or help. Asking and receiving from others goes against my very nature. But it doesn’t take an island to raise a child…it takes a village.

Here goes. I’ve got a few things that I want to try re: building my village. I’ll come back and let you know how it went. I’d love to hear from you if this has been a struggle and what’s been helpful (or not) as you go against culture and find your village.