Life update

Do you hear the crickets? It’s been 4 months since my last post. This has been the longest gap in writing since I started this blog back in 2013. Life has been full, mundane, busy, exciting and simple. Working full-time (with a 40 minute commute each way) while raising a toddler is the season that I’m in. And I’m grateful . While it doesn’t leave much room for hobbies like writing, I’m learning to be OK with that. Often, the most meaningful thing that you can do is to choose to be present for your regular life and in doing so, joy is found in the simple and ordinary.

Since I last wrote, we’ve been to work conferences — both for me and for Derek. While Derek remains home full-time with our daughter, he attended General Conference for the FMCiC, is a member on S.C.O.D., led music at Wesley Acres for 3 weeks in July, and was the camp speaker for Pine Orchard Family Camp this past week. He’s been busy for a stay-at-home dad!

It’s been just over one year since we left pastoring our church of 6 years.  The processing of that could be a whole other blog post (or book!). A year later, we are doing well. We are happy and healthy yet remain to be committed students of healing and learning.

In recent months, many have asked what’s next for Derek. He would tell you that a year later, he continues to enjoy being home with our daughter. That he’s enjoyed serving in various ministry settings over this past summer. But what’s next regarding full-time pastoral ministry or something else? We just don’t know. A year later, there’s still a lot of question marks. While that seems hard for some to understand, we aim to be OK with that. We firmly believe that God cares more about who you are than what you do (as in a title or position). Our current season has helped us to really embrace this truth. We are the better for it!

A whole year later, our motto is still the same. We are enjoying this season (our baby girl will only be this young once!), while also attempting to live this:

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Why I’m NOT giving my children everything that they want

In the short time since we’ve had a baby, I’ve been struck by how often I’ve heard people say that they are doing x, y or z so that their child can have everything that they want. The x,y, or z has been continuing to work in a job that they hate or working long hours.

In the first world, we are bombarded with messages that tell us that what we have is not enough. The truth is, we are fortunate to be able to give our children what they need and some of what they want. For millions of parents around the world, they just want to see their child live to see another day.

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Will I give my children some things that they want? Sure! But I desire for them to know the difference between a want and a need. And I won’t work long hours just for my children to have more of their wants fulfilled. While they may not appreciate it now, I think what children ultimately want are parents that are present, parents who model simple living, and parents who give to others rather than fulfilling all their wants on self.  Ultimately, I won’t be giving my children everything that they want as I hope and pray that they will be individuals who understand that they are blessed to be a blessing.