How I spend my time

“All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”

― J.R.R. Tolkien

Time. Time has taken on new meaning now that I’m a mom. Oh how I value my down time. I don’t seem to have very much of that anymore! The introvert in me could spend all day reading and writing. I love solitude. A cup of coffee. A walk alone. Driving in the car with the radio off and having my thoughts keep me company. Yes, I’m one of those people!

As a mom to a baby, I struggle finding the balance between 1) getting things done and 2) recharging my batteries. And to be honest, I can waste too much time on facebook when I could have spent that time reading or writing (even blogging!).

I’m challenged by the following thought, “how will I decide to spend my time so that when the day is done I’m left feeling proud instead of discouraged?” It’s not so much a question of, “do I have enough time today to get things done” but rather, “how will I spend the time that I do have in front of me?” I’m on a journey to be better at how I spend my time (whatever I decide is the goal re: how to spend my time for that particular day). To be intentional instead of on autopilot (i.e I’ll just scroll through facebook….and 30 minutes goes by).

Time. We all have limited amounts of it. But we all get to start over each day and decide anew how we will use it.

Finding the cure for rumination in the movie Frozen, improving house work productivity, and the most annoying thing people say re: grief

I feel like doing one of those “Recently I’m” blog posts. But I don’t wish to write about what I’m reading or eating lately. Rather, I’d like to reflect on what I’m working on and thinking about. I promise to keep it brief.

Recently I’m

1. Thinking that the best gift from the movie Frozen are these three words: LET IT GO. While I don’t think that the movie lived up to the hype, I now sing, “let is go, let it go” to myself at times.  Do you ever have nagging thoughts re: Image“I should have done/said ____ instead”? When I experience those, I now sing to myself, “let is go…let it go” and it seems to help.

2. Trying to accomplish 3 things each evening. I tend to feel tired and unmotivated to do house work or run errands after work (who doesn’t?!). I’d much rather come home and do nothing. While relaxing is necessary, work around the home also needs to get done. I’m trying to strike a good balance. In the last week or so, I’ve been operating from a “just do 3 things” approach. Once I have accomplished three productive things (whether big or small), I then give myself full permission to relax. An example of the three things could look like: do a load of laundry, write a thank you card, clean a bathroom. I’ve tried operating from a cleaning schedule before (certain things on certain days of the week) and I can’t even make it a week before I break the schedule. Accomplishing 3 things per day seems to be working great so far.

3. Feeling annoyed when people say “time heals all things” re: grief. No, no, no. Time does not heal all things. Time does heal a fracture of the bone but the emotional heart is much more complex. Does time make the pain of loss more bearable? Maybe. Yet, time alone does not completely heal a broken heart. Some people experience heartache so raw and deep that there’s always a chip missing on their heart. Over time, people learn how to live with a new reality. But they don’t forget, they aren’t the same. Time alone does not return the heart to the exact same shape it was in prior to the heartbreak.

That’s all folks. What are you trying or thinking about lately?